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Memories

11/25/2020

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The older I get, the more time I seem to spend on memories. I’ve heard this is a common occurrence as we age. So why am I doing it!
 
Some memories are wonderful, some not. I’m so sorry for all the stupid things I’ve done, the people I’ve hurt, the injustices I’ve accepted. I’m so grateful for the people I’ve loved who are gone and for those who remain. But today I want to concentrate on whimsical remembrances of days long past.
 
The street on which I lived had streetlamps. Not so strange. Except these were gas. Every evening shortly before dusk the lamplighter would make his rounds, igniting lamp after lamp. He’d be back again after dawn to extinguish them. He was a neighborhood fixture and friend to all.
 
Speaking of the street, it had a unique design feature, unfamiliar in Orlando. When it rained, water would flow along the curb into a sewer. No puddles remained standing for days. After a storm ceased, I would construct a paper boat and set it into the stream. I’d follow it as it headed for the sewer and save it at the last minute, only to repeat the voyage over and over.
 
The mailman was another neighborhood friend, always with a cheerful message as he made his twice a day delivery of envelopes sporting three-cent stamps.
 
Garbage cans were kept towards the back of the house. Before the truck rolled by a man would appear to take them to the curb. Another followed the truck and returned the empty cans to the back.
 
It probably was in the vicinity of a half mile between home and grammar school (yes, that’s what they were called back then). I walked to school in the morning, home for lunch, back to school, and home in the afternoon. No one gave a thought to the possibility of foul play and there was never the hint of a problem.
 
Except for department stores, mom and pop shops were the main businesses, and the only ones in East Orange, New Jersey. The department stores of the day were in neighboring Newark. There was a meat market, a grocery, a staples vender, a private lending library and gift shop, and Izzy’s. Wonderful Izzy’s where I’d buy my comic books and others purchased newspapers, Newspapers from around the country and the world.
 
The department stores weren’t anything like the Walmarts of today or the monstrosities that anchor malls and I dread entering. In my early years they had great departments in addition to the boring ones featuring clothes and perfumes. There were major electronic sections offering the very latest in radios including those exciting ones with FM. They had honest to goodness toy areas with toys that were durable, reasonably priced, and interesting.
 
Banks were independent and local. Their employees knew most customers. My dad was paid monthly with something called a paper check. I was in the bank with him and saw his pay was $500, meaning we lived a comfortable middle class life on $6,000 yearly.
 
My mother had a modern washing machine with a wringer of two hand operated rollers that squeezed the water from the wet clothes. There was no air conditioning and heat came from a coal fired furnace. Coal delivery trucks dumped a pile through a window into a special spot in our basement from which I often was the one to shovel it into the furnace.
 
Ebbets Field was an important part of my life. I spent many days of baseball season with the radio tuned to Red Barber’s and Vince Scully’s description of my Brooklyn Dodgers and their up and down attempts at greatness. On a few very lucky occasions I was in the stadium itself.
 
Trips to Asbury Park’s boardwalk were highlights of my youth leading to shuffleboard courts and merry-go-rounds.
 
Trolleys traveled the center of the main streets with their connecting power rods rising to the electricity supply on overhead wires.
 
Many a Broadway show was enjoyed from $5 balcony seats.
 
Such memories sometimes make me pine for those days of a simpler life.
 
Yes, it was a good time. At least if one was white. And especially if one was male.
 
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If you would like to share some of your own memories, let me know. If I receive enough, I’ll put them together in another posting.
 
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I’m going to take a break over the holidays, unless something comes up that makes me feel I have to do a posting. I hope you’ll rejoin me January 6, 2021. Meanwhile have a great Thanksgiving and joyous season. Stay safe.

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Is Understanding the Key?

11/18/2020

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President-Elect Biden is about to face challenges that defy solutions in a hostile political environment. One of his major goals is unification of the nation.
 
We are a country of such diverse backgrounds, experiences, interests, and motivations that it seems almost impossible.
 
Within Biden’s own party there are divisions from ultra-liberal to slightly conservative middle of the road that can create pressure. Everyone who voted for him now wants payback and I fear the consequences.
 
But it’s those who voted for Trump that are my concern today. And it seems from what we’ve seen post-election that it’s impossible to expect graciousness from many of them. But that’s all the more reason to try. And we must accept we have created some of the impediments to solutions.
 
After all, I and others, with smug feelings of superiority, have characterized these “Trumpers” in many ways. They are uneducated. Or even worse, they are stupid. They are voting against their own interests. They are racist. And on and on.
 
Some of this is true. There are out and out racists. We’ve seen them strutting with their guns and heard about social media posts that prove hatred is alive and well in our country.
 
However, I’ve come to think a lot of what we’ve believed is not true.
 
For one thing, these people are not uneducated. They just aren’t educated the same way we are. Most of them have skills of a type I can only admire. These skills may not be picked up in college, but many are such that those who possess them are invited into our homes to make repairs we are hopelessly unqualified to attempt. Even the coal miner risks life and health to work efficiently in the only job he has ever known. If this isn’t being educated, I don’t know what education is.
 
What about the claim Trump’s supporters are voting against their best interests? Is that true? Makes no sense to me. So I wonder if they are voting against what we consider their best interest, not what they do. In other words, we’re wrong.
 
In a recent column by Thomas Friedman, he indicates there is a feeling of humiliation because we college educated elites look down on the “uneducated” working class (see https://www.nytimes.com/2020/09/08/opinion/biden-trump-humiliation.html). Friedman says “…many of his core supporters actually hate the people who hate Trump, more than they care about Trump or any particular action he takes…”
 
I don’t necessarily believe this is the entire story, but it might well be a major part of it. And if it is, it gives a hint as to how Biden might cure some of the venom over the next four years. I suggest a couple of examples of possible approaches.
 
First, own up to the fact that Trump didn’t do everything wrong and praise him for what he did right. This shows understanding to the people who supported him that they had legitimate reason to do so. It might open the door for a less rigid rejection of the new president. Of course, finding such positive actions might be difficult, but it seems to me Operation Warp Speed supporting many approaches to getting rid of COVID is one, and we might all benefit from it in the near future.
 
Second, I think nothing shows respect more than listening. Biden should. We should. I suggest Biden bring at government expense representative groups of ten or so people to Washington and spend an hour with them in the Oval office. Not the nut jobs. Not union leaders. Rather the rank and file of those who voted against him. Honest people who fear for their jobs and feel disinherited from the Democratic party or from government in general.
 
Ask them what is important to them. Ask them how they think the problems could be solved. Respect their views, even if outlandish. And listen. Don’t talk.
 
There might be one such group who have lost jobs in manufacturing. Another of coal miners who have observed the movement away from their livelihood threaten their ability to survive. A third of small business owners. And most likely several others.
 
How much will this help? I have no idea. At the very minimum it will show a president who cares, and Biden strikes me as that kind of man. If he listens carefully and tries to shape policies that are good both for the nation and for the people, maybe advances can be made for everyone. Maybe just listening with respect can accomplish some good as everyone in the country will be aware of his actions.
 
I wish I was smart enough to know what would really work, if anything can.
 
What I do believe is nontraditional approaches are going to be necessary to heal our nation.

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Eating Crow

11/11/2020

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It’s not the first time the black bird has adorned my dinner plate, but it’s one of the more pleasant occasions. Because this time it’s due to my expressed doubt in last week’s post that Joe Biden would win the presidency. I’m only too happy to be wrong.
 
However, since my candidate won, I and others who wished for this outcome have responsibilities.
 
After all, losing is easy. We who deplored Trump know what that feels like. We complained at will and had a ready foil for anything that went wrong.
 
It’s winning that’s difficult. Especially when the despicable actions of Trump and Republican legislators make it hard to hope for improvement. In spite of all this, we’ve got to follow through and get the job done. Joe Biden is, and he has to face the myriad problems bearing down on our nation. I wouldn’t want to be him.
 
The problems we have to resolve are much closer to home. We need to attempt whatever we can at our level to heal the country.
 
First and foremost, we should make an effort to repair relationships that have been strained or severed by partisan politics.
 
Probably at no time since the Civil War have family estrangements so frequently occurred because of a difference in political views. Siblings have ceased speaking. Children have disowned parents and vice versa. Spouses have separated, literally or figuratively. It will be difficult. There will be pride involved, as well as any strains that existed before politics came into play, plus the additional stress of the pandemic.
 
I know several will be hesitant to initiate a healing process, fearful of a rejection that might well occur. However, the question that always must be faced is how we would feel if the estranged family member were to die unexpectedly. When it would be too late to do anything about the relationship. It might be unlikely, but it’s possible. Isn’t that enough to convince us to make the attempt? And we might be surprised at the reciprocating desire to mend fences. In any event, we will have been the adult.
 
Similar worthy efforts should be made toward those who were meaningful friends before Trump appeared with his divisive message.
 
There are other suggestions of lesser importance. Many relate to the fact that no one likes a smug winner.
 
Sure, be glad we won. Take some time to enjoy the moment. But then recognize half the country didn’t win and they’re feeling like we did four years ago.
 
So if we’re speaking to someone who supported Trump, we should not crow (how did that bird sneak in again?). I think it would be better to say something like, “I understand the outcome of the election is disappointing to you. But now it’s over. I hope we can work together for the good of all of us.” If it doesn’t work, well, we tried. If it does, though, it can be a tremendously rewarding experience.
 
Here’s a simple thing. Take down all political signs. Their continuing presence could be interpreted that we feel the election outcome still is in doubt, a feeling we should not encourage. But even worse is the signs are a “rubbing it in your face” reminder to neighbors on the opposing side. In general, neighbors should be embraced, not antagonized.
 
In any way we can, and this is going to be hard, we must try to eliminate hatred from our hearts and do whatever is possible to promote healing and compromise, no matter how difficult it is. Because the needed unity has to start somewhere. I’m going to have trouble with this one.
 
I’ll talk next week about what I think Biden and we should do to deal with the divide. I’m sure he’s waiting on pins and needles for my input.
 
Meanwhile, I’m walking as the crow flies to the dining room table for my fowl meal!

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The Election

11/4/2020

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I didn’t prepare a posting for today. My plan was to get up early and write about the election. And that’s what I’m doing. The problem is, there is as yet no winner. As a Biden supporter, or more accurately a Trump hater, yesterday evening was difficult, and sleep eluded me a large part of the night.
 
I’ve got to blow off steam, and you are the unfortunate recipient of my rant.
 
There’s still hope as counts continue. Indeed, we should all be hopeful and think positively.
 
It would be hard to tell you how much I want to be wrong, but in truth, however, I don’t expect a miracle. It seems to me that, in past elections, when there is a trend affecting key states, like Florida and Ohio, it continues into others. I and the inaccurate polls were convinced of a Biden win. The trend has been away from that, by a long shot.
 
No matter the final outcome, I am deeply disturbed by the views of a large segment of my fellow citizens. They have shown their preference for a man who:
  • Lies, cheats, and demonstrates incompetence
  • Internationally ignores friends and courts dictators, setting us on a path to becoming a second-class nation
  • Distrusts scientists and medical experts resulting in a poor attack on the pandemic and a scorched earth policy that in four more years will place the environment past its tipping point
  • Wants to eliminate Obamacare without even a poor replacement
  • Attacks the ideals of our democracy and constitution including the media and an independent judiciary
  • Takes every opportunity to divide our country instead of uniting it and thereby encourages the strengthening of hate groups
 
Is this the type of nation we are destined to become?
 
Last evening I heard several say this isn’t the country they grew up in. Well, that country wasn’t so hot either with its racism and secondary status for women among other ills.
 
But for decades our country has been trying. Relations were improving. Women have become more independent and assumed leadership roles in businesses and organizations. Our prejudices were still there, but we were learning to hold them in check. Younger people were growing up having closer contact with ethnicities other than their own and acceptance of female equality. And not thinking much about it.
 
Then 2016 occurred and our latent anger has been given free reign.
 
I could list many reasons why Biden has not done better. But there’s enough negativity in this piece already. We don’t need more.
 
Instead I’m going to try to remain hopeful until there is a resolution to the election.
 
There’ll be plenty of time to assess blame later.
 
Or maybe a miracle will occur!

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